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Ultimate Gift Wishlist for 8-Year-Old Boys

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These are the best gifts for boys for Christmas, birthdays, or just because! So add these to your gift guide or wishlist! Happy shopping + giving! #giftguide #toywishlist #giftsforboys

 

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Gift Guide for the Nursing Mom

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The perfect gift guide for pumping or nursing moms. All of the tools to make her breastfeeding journey a successful and comfortable one!

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How To Find Cheap Jogging Strollers

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Tips to find cheap jogging strollers for the mom & baby on a budget. These strollers are a must-have for the postpartum mama trying to lose the baby weight!

by Sarah Snyder-Castañeda | Parenting Blogger

I’m not going to lie – I use my stroller for way more than its intended purpose. I use it to unload groceries, I put my child in it and walk around the house to entertain her. Let’s face it – strollers can become a pretty important staple in our lives. Whether you are expecting your first child or fifth, you may have wondered if you need a jogging stroller.

I’m going to argue that you don’t need one, but once you’ve tried one, you’re not going to want to go back. And contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to be a jogger to appreciate them! While baby stuff is expensive, there are ways to ease the burden of buying a jogging stroller. Here are a few of my favorite tricks and tips for doing that.

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Why Stay At Home Moms Have It Easy

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Why the Stay-at-Home-Mom Has it Easy | Frugal Nesting | This is why I think being a Stay-At-Home-Mom is not actually the most difficult job. There is one specific reason. Let me know what you think.

 

Stop…Call off the Mob!

 

Yes, I realize that is a CRAZY thing to say, but I knew it would get your attention!  And it worked didn’t it?  Now before you get too angry with me and go on the defensive please hear me out.

 

Some of My Best Friends are Stay-At-Home-Moms

 

My own mother was a stay-at-home-mom and I couldn’t be more thankful for having that amazing experience growing up.  I saw just how hard she worked to run our household like a well-oiled machine.  And I saw how challenging it was for her.  Yet she did it with skill and grace and made it look easy.

 

So, no… of course being a stay-at-home-mom isn’t actually EASY.  Being a parent is hard work.  And being at home with the little ragamuffins and away from regular adult interaction all day is even more difficult.

 

Then pile on taking care of everything that goes into running a household.  Including cleaning, groceries, schedules, entertaining, and on and on.  All that “mental load” stuff is exhausting.

 

So please know that I am the first to agree that being a stay-at-home-mom is worth AT LEAST the $143,102 per year that Salary.com estimates.

 

But Wait There’s More

 

Then what if you had to do ALL of that (household management) PLUS work 40 hours per week, commute, AND pay someone else to raise your children?  Who in their right mind would do that?

 

But that is exactly what many working moms are expected to do.  All while carrying the ever present mom guilt and constantly hearing how being a stay-at-home-mom is the hardest job there is.  But no kudos for the working mom.

 

So I’m standing up in an effort to rock the boat and tell you why stay-at-home-moms have it easy. Or at least maybe ‘easy-er’.

 

More than anything it boils down to one thing and that is TIME.

 

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The One Creative Thing Every Pregnant Mom Should Do

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If you are a newly pregnant mom this is one of the first things you should do for yourself. It's so important to document your journey and maintain a method of self-care.

A Creative Idea for Every Pregnant Mom

Hey, Mama!  I am so excited for you…congratulations!  I am one of those crazy gals who truly loved being pregnant and I so hope it’s the same for you!

Pregnancy is such a wild time filled with excitement mixed with anxiety. Add to that a million questions about the unknown and some serious planning and you’ve got a lot on your plate as a newly pregnant mom!

One other thing that I recommend you add to the list is starting your very own personal blog right now.  And, “Why?” you might ask.  Well, I have some very good reasons for you!

Self Care Journaling

Pregnancy is such a crazy time.  It’s like a hormonal & emotional rollercoaster.  So self-care is truly vital for the well-being of every pregnant mom.

One great outlet for self-care is journaling.  And as much as we would all love to be those bullet journal people…for many of us it’s just not realistic.  However, journaling online is a much more sustainable option.

And blogging is, in many ways, like a form of online journaling.  It’s such a cathartic outlet to release your thoughts, emotions, struggles, and elation as you navigate these 40-ish weeks.  And doing so online is so simple and easy to maintain.

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Bottle Refusal Solutions for Breastfed Babies

Bottle Refusal

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Bottle Refusal: How To Get a Breastfed Baby to Take a Bottle. Tips to help you return to work from maternity leave or just go out of the house for a bit!

 

Preparing to Go Back to Work

Going back to work after maternity leave is one of the most difficult things a new mom will face.  There are so many emotions that come along with that transition.  You may feel like you are abandoning your baby.  Will their caregiver care for them properly?  What if something happens?  What if they forget you or you miss all of their milestones?  Those are just a tiny sampling of the thoughts that might race through your head.

There are so many things to think about and plan for.  But one of the things that you may not consider is how your baby will be fed in your absence.  Many moms who have been on maternity leave have been exclusively nursing and are confident in their choice to pump and continue to nurse after going back to work.  Bottle refusal is not even on their radar.

That was me.  And as my return to work date approached I was definitely dreading it. But making sure my baby was fed was not something I was particularly concerned about.  In fact, I’d never even heard of bottle refusal before.  That is until I had to go for a hair appointment about 2 weeks before returning to work.

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10 Best Lactation Aids to Increase Milk Supply Quickly

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This is the best list of ways to increase milk supply quickly with products, treats, supplements and awesome tips and tricks for breastfeeding.

Ways To Increase Milk Supply

I have been breastfeeding my little guy, Logan, for 11 months now…yay!  In the early days of nursing and getting ready to go back to work, milk supply was a super huge overriding freak-out concern of mine!  Luckily over the past few months, we’ve gotten into a pretty good rhythm and leveled things off for the most part.

However, even now I still run into times when my supply dips due to weird work scheduling conflicts or random family activities that require a lot of travel, etc.  So every now and then, almost a year in, I still need help to boost my supply!  So I am always on the lookout for ways to increase milk supply.

Now, this is something that I did a TON of research on about 6 months to a year ago, but figured it would be a good time to revisit it since our schedule has been so crazy lately and I’m seeing the impact on my supply!  It is insane how many options there are out there to increase milk supply and most of them are super tasty treats!

This list is current as of Fall 2016 and I intend to keep an eye on it to update as things change!  Also, the best thing of all…most of these are small businesses and I am all about shopping small!  So check these out and let me know if you have any questions or suggestions!

1. Mrs. Patels Fenugreek Bars \\ You probably already know that these bars are my absolute #1 favorite milk supply booster!  As soon as I eat one of these I see a HUGE boost in supply within 24 hours.  I totally swear by these!  I love them so much I even wrote a pretty long blog post about them HERE.

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Pumpkin Oatmeal Lactation Cookies

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Oatmeal Lactation Cookies

Autumn is my absolute favorite time of year! And with that comes pumpkin everything…lucky for me since I LOVE pumpkin!  This fall I am busy with a million things including both nursing and pumping milk for my little guy, Logan!  As you know from my post “How I Increased My Milk Supply Overnight“, maintaining my milk supply is always on my mind.  So I figured what better way to shake things up than to incorporate pumpkin, a lactogenic food, into a lactation cookie for a seasonal twist on the standard oatmeal lactation cookies!

Not only does this recipe incorporate pumpkin, but it also includes the following galactogagues: oatmeal, flaxseed and brewer’s yeast.  So these cookies are a game-changing powerhouse of milk-making goodness all wrapped up in a yummilicious cookie!  These are so good that the rest of the family will be fighting you for them, however just write “Mama’s Milk Making Cookies – HANDS OFF” on a gallon Ziploc bag and store them in the fridge to prevent them from disappearing!  Or you could just make a double batch to share!

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The Unique Way That We Pay for Childcare

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The cost of childcare is ridiculous these days! Learn about the unique way we pay for childcare that has saved our sanity!

 

Today I was talking to my hair stylist about our kids and about getting older.  We are both in our mid to late thirties and both considering having a 3rd child.  We discussed the age thing, the impact on the other kids, and the dads.  Then the conversation inevitably turned to the cost of and how to pay for childcare, as we are both in two career households.

Her children are both within two years of my oldest at 7 and 9.  And last time she was a SAHM and in a different relationship.  So she had never had the *pleasure* of paying more than the cost of housing or college to pay someone else to raise her kids.  Needless to say, I had to school her on the hard truth about the cost of childcare here in the Seattle area.

 

I just did some quick research and found that the average cost of infant care in the Seattle area is $1,083/MO.  To me, that seems low based on my experience, but I’ll go with it.  That’s for just ONE kid!  And it’s more than a year of tuition at the UW!  Crazy isn’t it?

 

Now let’s backtrack a minute to about 9 years ago when I was in those same shoes. I was so naive when I first began to suspect I might be pregnant back in 2008.  I truly believed that everyone got 3 months paid time off, that I would be immune to gaining any baby weight, and that childcare would be affordable.  By now I’m sure you’re laughing at 20-something me and my blissful ignorance!  Affordable childcare?  What is that?  It’s this thing we hear a lot about in political arguments, but none of us out in the trenches have ever seen it.

 

And as naive as I was back then, I was even more of a procrastinator and an idealist.  I truly believed the old adages that “everything happens for a reason” and “it will all just work itself out.” Wasn’t I precious?  So I visited a couple centers before I gave birth, but hadn’t nailed anything down before I had GQ.  And as my return to work date approached, I realized that I really should select a location and button everything up.

 

And then I got a phone call.  MR was calling to tell me that he’d been laid off and my heart sank into my shoes.  Now mind you, this was during the heart of the recession and there were no jobs to be had.  So I went back to work and he stayed home with 3-month-old GQ. And that was our life for two years.  It was tough, but in the end, he was still being raised at home by a parent.

 

And in hindsight, it was truly a blessing in disguise because of the unemployment benefits and all of the extensions available at that time.  We were probably in the same boat financially as we would have been even if he had been working.  That is if you consider the high cost of having to pay for childcare.

 

By the time GQ went to daycare for the first time he was already two, so the monthly rate was under $1,000.  But not by much.  So we pretty much worked to pay the bills and to have other people raise our kid.  This is why we put off having a second child.  For six and a half years!

 

But he got older and we became more stable.  We planned everything out perfectly…right?  Firts, we sat down with the cost sheet for the same daycare that GQ was attending and figured out how we would pay for their combined rates.  Plus we scheduled around my busy time at work.  We were on top of everything!  And we got pregnant on our second month of trying!  Winning at parenting!

 

So I called our daycare to reserve our spot and was informed immediately that it would not be possible because of some new regulations.  All of their spots were now reserved for the new Early Head Start infants & they were not accepting any private pay infants.  I freaked out but figured there must be somebody who had an opening.  Boy was I wrong!  Everyone had that same answer or a waitlist that stretched into eternity or cost $2,000+ per month.  We were screwed!  What to do?

 

So we hired a nanny.  And that was a whole new basket of issues.  We had some great experiences & some awful experiences between the three nannies that we dealt with over the course of 5 months.  I know…three.

How Do People Pay for Childcare These Days?

But even at the bare minimum a nanny ain’t cheap!  We were facing a child care bill that was about 150% of what we pay for our mortgage.  How can anyone afford to pay for childcare these days?  So, what…is child rearing now only a luxury for the rich?  It didn’t seem fair, but I understand that’s the thing with life…

 

We made it work for a little while but quickly realized that it was not sustainable if we kept doing the same thing that we’d been doing.  So we sat down to brainstorm.  How in the world were we going to make this work and continue to pay for childcare?  One of the thoughts that eventually came up was this idea of the side hustle.

 

If you’re not familiar with the side hustle, it’s really just any type of side project to make extra money.  It’s usually a little unconventional or novel and creative.  For some people, it’s selling essential oils, or overpriced leggings, or fancy shakes, or slimming body wraps.  Or it could be an Etsy shop or playing gigs in a band, and on and on.  And in this case, it led us down a path that has changed our lives in so many ways.

 

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Mister Mister

 

Now MR had been throwing around this one idea for ages, but it always seemed a pipe dream because he didn’t have the tools needed to make it a reality.  And that idea was rideshare driving.  But he had this old 2001 SUV that was his baby and you just can’t use a car that old.  So we put that idea to bed.  That is until he was in a wreck and totaled the truck.  Which led to a friend offering to sell him a fancy Saab for a killer price that was less than 10 years old!

 

This was the series of events that paved the way for MR’s side hustle.  Honestly, the ink was barely dry on the title before he signed up to drive with Uber!  Things moved fairly quickly and he was out on the road within about two weeks.  The plan was for him to drive weekends and some nights.  And that is exactly what he did.

 

It was like a miracle.  He immediately began averaging $20/hour and earning an average of $300/Week on top of the salary from his day job!  That’s around $1,200/month!

 

My Turn

 

Right around that same time, I realized that the blog I had been tinkering with might have the potential to earn some money itself.  This was a foreign thought to me as it may be to you.  However, I will quickly tell you how bloggers make money and you will have your “ah-ha” moment too!

 

First, they allow display ads on their blog.  Second, they write what are called sponsored posts.  That is where a company pays them to write about a specific product or service.  Third, they participate in affiliate marketing.  This is where they will write a blog post like normal, but add links to products or services that they naturally mentioned in the post.  If you make a purchase then they receive a commission.  And finally, many bloggers sell their own products like ebooks, printables, online courses, etc.  I have a friend who earns over $100,000/MO from her blog doing just those very things!

 

No, I’m not bringing in anywhere close to that!  I wish!  But some months I’ve earned around $300 and it continues to grow!  Not too shabby for a gal who just writes about mom life!

And That’s How We Pay for Childcare

So between the two of us, we are side hustling our way through the crippling cost of daycare!  And some months we have extra money left over!  It has been such a feeling of relief knowing that we have this extra money coming in so we don’t have to worry about how we’re going to pay our bills from one month to the next.  For a while there we were really worried about how we were going to keep all the balls in the air.  And finding our own unique side hustle(s) has made all the difference!

How do you pay for childcare?  Do you have any unique tips or tricks for other families reading this?  If so, please leave them in the comments below!  And if you’d like more information about driving for Uber click HERE.  Or if you think that starting a blog might be more your style click HERE.  And good luck to you as you navigate this special, and so very expensive, time in your life!

Update – May 2017

Since this was originally published MR was able to quit his day job to stay home with the boys during the day thanks to rideshare driving!  He also drives for Lyft now, but Uber remains his steady!  He made over $1,000 this week alone!  And we no longer have to pay for childcare!  Woo hoo!

Girlfriend’s Guide to Packing Your Hospital Bag:

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What Should I Pack for the Hospital | Labor and Delivery | Frugal Nesting

The 45 Best Things I Took To The Hospital

A comprehensive, detailed list of the 45 best things I packed for childbirth! This list should be useful for either a hospital or a birth center setting. There are a few things that are a bit on the “granola” side, but they are things we never thought of so I thought I would share just in case!

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General guidance is to pack your bag between 34 – 37 weeks gestation, but I’m of the mindset that it’s better to be safe than sorry and some babies like to shake things up. So I think it’s a good idea to pack your bag around 23 – 25 weeks just in case! Happy packing!!!

BEFORE YOU ARRIVE

1. Phone number of your doctor, midwife, nurse or hospital for advice & notification that you are on your way
2. Plastic seat cover or garbage bag AND old towel to cover the seat for the drive to the hospital (just in case)
3. Something to bite, grip or pull on for the drive…it’ll be rough!

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